Primrose Gray shares her fifth installment “Keeping Your Man Alive”
Keeping your man alive cont….
Mmmm.. not looking so good then. Time to go into overdrive and trawl every nook and cranny of the internet. We take it for granted now, but I wonder how many lives the World Wide Web has saved just by giving people the freedom
of access to the kind of essential information that was previously buried in the dusty impenetrable heads of academics and their equally impenetrable papers;or in the press-cuttings in the stygian gloom of an echoing library.
It is the Americans that offer up the most prolific, the best presented, the most encouraging and the most useful information. Well, of course. (And, having checked, this is still true today – if you need to, try www.rcog.com). It doesn’t take us long to discover that the most recent and revolutionary treatment for prostate cancer, stateside, is almost ideally suited to the Husband’ s diagnosis.But it doesn’t take us long to stop jumping up and down and going whoopee.Because, guess what? There was only one, single, solitary man able to perform the same procedure in the whole of the UK (and indeed in the whole of Europe)..and he is tucked away in a building not a great deal bigger or more sophisticated that a couple of large PortaCabins behind a hospital in Leeds.So Yorkshire beckons. The Husband is incapable of making any trip of any sort,for any reason, without making a diversion to the best restaurant or hotel in the nearest beauty spot. So not only do we make an appointment to see this rare and particular man who, from now on I will call Our Hero, but we also make alater appointment with a delicious dinner and a four poster bed in a picturesque village outside Leeds.
It is the Husband’s philosophy that it is important to keep enjoying yourself whenever and wherever you can, especially in times of trouble (he’s a Cavalier). It used to be my philosophy that his philosophy, whilst enjoyable, was self indulgent and often very expensive (I’m a roundhead). Thus,in the past, some of our enjoyable diversions were, in fact, not enjoyable at all due to this difference of opinion which could sometimes descend into an ‘uncivil’war. But I recognize that this is definitely the time for me to change. If you’re going to enjoy yourself, enjoy yourself. Do not spend time and money by spoiling things just to make some kind of puritanical point. Life is, potentially, very short.
Actually, forget the potentially… Life, even a long one, is short.Our Hero turns out to be a charming, articulate and straightforward white coated man in his forties. He has trained with the very best and most advanced practitioners of this new treatment for two years in the USA. This is the man who will decide if the Husband qualifies for the procedure called Brachytherapy,involving the use of around a hundred radioactive seedlings placed in the prostate surrounding the cancer. And if there is room on his list within the relatively urgent timeframe.
Put bluntly, Our Hero has the Husband, in a well-meaning sort of way, by the short and curlies .